Friday, July 28, 2006

Secrets of the Romance Sisterhood

This has been the most amazing party! I’ve learned so much this week. First off, Lucy Monroe is an awesome author and a wonderful person and beloved by all. And she knows lots of inspiring authors who have written some great blogs, while all the participants have provided wonderful insights. We’ve discussed TBR piles, 5-star reads, romantic things, romance around children (i.e., how to do the horizontal mamba on the sly-ha!), books that stay with us, secret dreams and guilty pleasures, book settings, movies, perfect heroes, dream careers, vacations, embarrassing moments, stepping outside our comfort zones to try new books, iced drink recipes, and so much more.

I’ve also learned that you are an amazing group, with dreams and aspirations; that you’re smart, caring, creative, imaginative, and supportive. What a great sisterhood! I think that’s maybe the best thing about romance readers. We come in all ages, shapes, sizes, races, religions, but we accept our differences. We nurture and we love. And we do it with class and pizzazz. And we know how to party! Woohoo!

Also, it appears that the majority of you prefer macho bad boys; steamy, curl-your-toes love scenes; and that emotion is one of the most important elements in keeper romances. We want to feel, to live through the characters, and to know that when we close the book, all is right with the world.

Which is exactly why I write and read romance. I wouldn’t want to do anything else.

Here’s my question: Did you end up with your very first love? Feel free to kibbutz about that first love and share where you did end up.

I’ve really enjoyed hanging with y’all this week. Let’s do it again some time!

Hugs and chocolate,

Catherine
www.catherinespangler.com

63 comments:

Bonnie Ferguson said...

It's been a wonderful week and so much fun! :)

Cryna said...

Hi Catherine

Yes it has been a wonderful week and we have really partied.

In answer to your question. Sometimes we drift into situations that are not correct for us, which is pretty much what I did the first time. Although I knew my first husband while growing up with his sister as my best friend, and through my senior year we dated, and finally married. It was not a marriage to last......some things are just not meant to be. Nothing bad in the marriage, just not right - if that makes sense.

What is so funny about my second marriage is that my husband and I set the ground rules on our first date. We were not looking for anything permanent - just the occasional date. I guess because we set the ground rules, neither of us gave it a thought...........LOL and as the saying goes, the second time round was the charm and I would not have changed anything. We had a very happy marriage and since his passing I would rather go it alone. But one never knows what lies ahead of us.......and sometimes that is the best.

Julie in Ohio said...

It has been a great week. So much is going on with such great company.

Did I end up with my first love? No. I had a high school sweetheart but we broke up senior year.
I met my dh a year later, although I was not going to go out with him. *g* We've been together ever since (11 years and counting). :o)

Cryna said...

And after that long winded post, I forgot to mention that the best friends one could have are the ones I have met through the romance loop which I am on. They are all a caring, wonderful bunch of ladies and a few gents as well, and I hope with all my heart that I am fortunate enough to be able to meet with them one day, be it at a conference, or just a get together. The romance Authors and readers are the best.

Jen in WA said...

Catherine, you did an awesome job of summarizing this week. We've all had a lot of fun.

How sad is this... but I'm quickly approaching the big 3-0 (two months exactly, now that I think of it) and I've never been in love. Sure, I've had crushes, but never love. I'm still waiting for the ONE to sweep me off of my feet.

Stacy Dawn said...

Hmmm, technically I think I did. I had major lust for this one fella for ages but it was my hubby who brought me down to earth and showed me what real love was so I guess I'd have to say yes, he was my first love.

Jennifer Y. said...

I had a blast this week!

I am still searching for Mr. Right!

Cherie Japp said...

I had lots of crushes growing up and into my twenties. It's amazing how foolish your ideas of Mr. Right is when you are young. Don't feel bad Jen in Wa. I finally met my first real love at age 30, married him at age 32, had a baby boy with him before age 36. Now at age 38 we are expecing our last child, a baby girl due in October. So don't ever give up. There is always hope to find your true love. Catherine, you are so right. This truly has been a wonderful week of sisterhood and a very bright spot in my life. Thank you Lucy and everyone for a wonderful week. Sniff sniff. I better stop before I start to cry. Have a great weekend everyone.

Amy S. said...

I've had fun this week.

No, I didn't end up with my first love. He was a friend in high school that I ended up dating. After a while, we ended up breaking up.

Julie S said...

Definitely a fun week! I almost don't miss Nationals!

I think I did end up with my first love. He wasn't my first boyfriend or anything, but when I met him I KNEW. That never happened before.

Lucy Monroe said...

Catherine...ditto all that you said.

As for first loves? Can I say how GLAD I am I didn't end up with mine? LOL Dh is the ultimate man to me, the quintessential hero and no way could the first man I loved have ever lived up to the standard my husband has set in my life. I thank God all the time for giving me such an incredible gift. :)

Barb V. in NY said...

This has been an awesome week. You summed it up perfectly in your post.

I want to also say that I agree with Canadian Friend about the special people on the romance loops. Books brought us together, but we are very much a family. It is wonderful to have so much caring and support.

I did not end up with my first love. We met in college. He decided to enlist in the military for three years -- this was in the era when the US still had a draft, and he was stationed in Germany for two years. I continued in school and the relationship just could not sustain so much time apart. I met my dh through work, and we were friends before we started dating. We've married now for almost 27 years.

Jennifer L hart said...

I agree with Catherine 100%. This has been an amazing week and I've had a blast talking to all of the smart, fun loving women who have made a cameo here.

And I'll take the fifth on the question. I don't want to incriminate myself. :)

Maureen said...

It has been a great lot of fun visiting with all these authors all week. I didn't end up with my first love and that was definitely a good thing.

Minna said...

Nope, I didn't end up with my first love. I was too shy those days, so he wasn't even my boyfriend or anything, but I did get a chance to dance with him once for two whole hours when my class was practicing old dances for the senior's ball and his dance partner was ill that day.

Cathie said...

First of all, this has been a great week. I had a blast here, meeting new readers and authors too. Thanks for this week, I really looked forward to each day here.

My husband of 23 years is my first love. We met in college and really, its I know sounds weird, but like the romance novels, just had that spark and warm feeling inside that I didn't want to be without him. We even said that to each other at the same time and told each other we wanted to marry. Sure there has but a bump here and there, but so worth the learning. I wouldn't change a thing!

Niny said...

You did a great job on summarizing the week! Did I end up with my first love? No. And when we broke up it was really hard for me to get over him. Then 5 years later I started dating again then met and married my first husband, which didnt end well either. Then met my husband, he had the hardest time on convincing me to marry him. With all I had been through I didnt want to, but he persuaded me and now I'm happily married to this wonderfully amazing men that rocks my world!

Jennifer L. said...

Helll NAWWWW did I end up with my first love. Suffice to say it ended badly, but it was sooo for the best. I've always admired and envied others who did though. Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince!

This has been a wonderful week! I hope this will become an annual event. No pressure, but I'm just sayin. . .

Amy said...

It has been a great week. And yes I did marry my first love. I met my hubby thru my best friend when I was 14. He was very good friends with her older brother. Because he was 19 and I was 14 I had to wait a couple of years before we could date. We dated from the time I was 16 and married when I turned 19. We have been married a little over 18 years now.

bamabelle said...

Hi Catherine!

This really has been an amazing week! It is great to see that for all our differences, there is so much that connects us as well! Long live the Romance Sisterhood!

I did marry my first love, because everyone before him was either a crush or well ... a moron. Thank goodness my taste improved lol!

Hugs, Zara

Rachael said...

I'm engaged to a wonderful man that I met about 5 yrs ago. We've been together about 4 years. He wasn't my ''first love'' but it sure feels like it.

kim said...

it is a long story, but met in school was love at first site

Brandy said...

I ended up marrying my first love, who was also my HS sweetheart. We've been married over 13 years now with 2 children. Want to know something weird? The night before I met him I was depressed and lonely because all my friends seemed to be pairing off and I wanted someone to love me and share my life. My Mom sat me down and said, lets pray about it. We did, the next night I met my Dh and his blue eyes have been looking into my heart ever since!

Joyce said...

It's been a great week. This was quite interesting and alot of fun.

Carol said...

I've enjoyed reading all the blogs this week. Thanks!

ShelMel said...

Wow... what a question... I didn't end up with my first love.

We started dating at the end of my 9th-grade year. And in my senior year in high school, he was killed in a car accident. That was probably the hardest thing I've ever gone through in my life.

Having had him in my life and having lost him the way that I did really affected me negatively for a long, long time. I came very close to screwing up my life because I didn't feel like I could move on without him.

Fast forward approx. 15 years later and I finally let him go and got my life back in order. I am now married to the perfect man for me, faults and all. And, to top it all off, I thank my first love for giving me the clarity to recognize love when I was ready to accept it.

Mary Eason said...

This has been such fun. I'm so glad Lucy did this.
maryj

Chantal said...

Yes, what a fun week. I love seeing a new post from one of you gals every time I log onto to Lucy's blog :)

I did end up with my first love.
Although my first not so secret love is Johnny Depp! I have had the lust for him since I was 13. Mmmm.

readingissomuchfun said...

I would like to say thanxs to Lucy for hosting such a wonderful blog party. Also thanxs to all the authors for donating such wonderful prizes. I have met so many wonderful authors this wk being here. I had added so many books to my Must Buy List.

I am engaged to a wonderful man. We been together since 2001. We are planning our wedding in 2007 or 2008 but it will be on June 12th.

HUGSSSS
Linda.H.

Debby said...

My husband is really the only one I seriously dated. The others were just for fun.

CrystalG said...

It has been a wonderful week. Thank you Lucy for having a great blog party! :)

I did not end up with my first love. Thank goodness. My dh is a much better man than my first love and I am lucky to have him.

Anne McAllister said...

Great question. I married the first man I was absolutely serious about. Had had "crushes" before and dated a few guys casually. But nothing that "rocked my world" until The One came along.

It's been an amazing ride so far -- and I look for it to continue. He brings out the best in me, and I hope I return the favor!

Great week so far, Lucy and all. I'll be back to post a blog tomorrow.

Cheers,
Anne

Kelley said...

Yes, I ended up with my first love. I had tons of crushes that I thought were love, but once I felt love I realized they weren't.

You are correct. This party has been so much fun, and Lucy is such a wonderful lady for hosting it :)

Tara W said...

I haven't met my true love yet, but the search will continue.

Marcy said...

I ended up with my first true love. The one who looked into my heart and liked what he saw.

Thanks for hosting this party, Lucy, and thanks to all the wonderful authors and readers who've postd. It was amazing!

Catherine Spangler said...

Wow Shelmel, what an amazing and sad story! I'm so glad you're now happily married.

I met my first real love when I was around 20, and I fell *hard*. I was head over heels. He was the best man and I was the maid of honor in a good friend's wedding. Unfortunately, he was engaged to someone else (who was living across the country at the time). I'm not a poacher, but the pull to this man was like that of a black hole. He felt the same way (and even after 30+ years, I truly believe that--I don't think he was stringing me along). I think it was a karmic happening, and we were both pretty helpless against it. But he wasn't going to leave her, and I wasn't going to hang around and be destroyed (although it was really too late for that). Our last night together, we were sitting in his car, listening to the radio, and "Touch Me In The Morning", sung by Diana Ross, came on. First time I had ever heard it. To this day, that song still gives me chills.

I left the next day, returning to where I grew up. It took me a very long time to get over this man.

But then I met my husband, and knew he would always be there for me. I didn't have the nuclear fireworks I had with the other man, but the warm glow and constant love is made to last a lifetime, and we've been married 29 years next month.

Sometimes I think those incredible first attractions are based on sexual chemistry, and that's not always enough to sustain a relationship. The real deal is much better :-)

~ Catherine

Judy F said...

its been fun this week.

Didn't end up with my first love. Still looking...LOL

Estella said...

I did not end up with ny first love, but have been married to my DH for 23 years.

Cherie said...

I'm with the second person I fell in love with only the love is different.
It's so much better when you receive the same love in return.

~Cherie K~

Melissa said...

I'm still searching for Mr. Right, but no worries. Wouldn't want to settle for anyone less.

Thanks for hosting such a fun gathering Lucy!

Jenn said...

This really has been a lot of fun. Reading all the amazing blogs and comments has been so much fun. we should do this more often.

robynl said...

Never ended up with the first love. However, I'm married for the second time and it will be our 17th anniversary tomorrow.

Thanks for a fun week.

Becky said...

Unfortunately, no I did not end up with my first love. We went out for 6 months and had a few talks. He sounded interested and then all of a sudden it was like he dropped off the face of the earth. I didn't see him for 4 weeks straight. When I did finally see him again he was with another girl.

jennybrat said...

No, I didn't. My first love was in love with someone else.

Ali said...

You are so right, Catherine, it has been a great week of reading these blog posts and comments :-)

No, I didn't end up with my first love. Which is good, because I was too young to know what I really wanted, and who knows what would have happened. I've been in my current relationship with three years, to a wonderful guy. And whenever I think of all past relationships there is a song that pops into my head. It's by Rascal Flats, and one of the lines is: and God bless the broken road, that lead me straight to you. And it's so true because, I wouldn't be who I am, with who I'm with if it weren't for all the lessons learned from before :-)

catslady said...

Oh exactly what you said, Catherine. I did marry my first true boyfriend - he was the new kid in school who had traveled the world - I was 16 and he was 18. We got married two years later and have been married for 37 years but it hasn't always been an easy road and I do think we were too young and really had no idea what we wanted. I have two daughters, 18 and 22 and my advice to them has always been to make sure they understood themselves first and then the rest will come.

It's been a wonderful week and very informative and fun at the same time. Thanks to everyone - Lucy, authors and readers.

Pam Champagne said...

I didn't end up with my first love, but my son did. Jof met Kim when he was 15 and she was 16. They've been together since then, married for sixteen years and have two beautiful daughters. Kim traipsed around the world with him for the ten years he was in the military. And spent countless months home praying for his safety when he was deployed to dangerous areas. Their love never ceases to amaze. me.

Kathleen said...

This week has been a lot of fun blogging here!!!

Mr. Right where are you????!!!!

Marcail said...

No. My bad. I thought he was too young to commit to an older women. (5 year difference) I often wonder if I sold him short. He's been irreplaceable in my heart. So sweet and honest. Men my age and older are so stuck.

Kate said...

I am lucky enough to be engaged to my first true love! We met through a mutual friend and had a long distance relationship for 9 months - him in Glasgow, Scotland and me in the South East of England. We ran up huge phone bills talking on the phone every night before we went to sleep and would meet up each month for a weekend. Once I finished college we made the decision that I would move up to Scotland. We spent 5 years there together and have now emigrated to New Zealand together. I am looking forward to the other adventures our life together will bring!

slehan said...

Very fun week. No I did not end up with my first love. And I'm glad I didn't. I wasn't grown up enough to know myself, let alone share with someone else.

cyngreen said...

No, I didn't - and apparently that was a good thing!

ShelMel said...

Thank you Catherine, losing my first love like that was extremely hard. But, I've come through the journey of a long grieving process and am better for it. My husband who is my first "mature" true love is the perfect man for me. :)

I'm glad you realized that that "nuclear reaction" you had with your first love wasn't necessarily based on true, real love. Congratulations on almost 29 years of True Love!

KarenG said...

I did not marry my first love. Maybe I should have. It did not turn out well with the man I choose.

Debbie E said...

I didn't marry my first love but I still love the one I married 26 years ago! He is my hero and thanks to some ideas and motivation from your Hot stories - it has added more pizzazz to this 26 year marriage.

I love reading hot romance books so thanks authors for giving me so much pleasure over the years. I look forward to many more.

Thanks Lucy~! I do collect your great stories.

Cynthya said...

No, I didn't end up with my first love, but oddly enough my DH does have the same first name. Actually now that I think about it, they look a lot alike, too. Hmmm.

Lori said...

Hello Catherine~

I did not end up with my "first" love...actually about a year ago, I was googling people and I found out that the boy that I would say was my very first true love...had passed away when he was really young like 19. It made me cry and it had been years and years since I had even seen him. Sorry for the sad note.
On to who I ended up with... I ended up with a great guy who was one of my very best friends all through high school and after high school we just clicked and have been together for 18 years.
Lori

Lori said...

Catherine~
In my last post I forgot to mention how much I completely agree with you about how wonderful the sisterhood of romance readers is. I only been posting on some websites in the last year and I have met some people who I consider to be true friends and this has been a stressful year for me and I could not have made it through without my friends that I have made!
Lori

Juliet said...

Hi Catherine! I really love how wonderful the romance community is, and I'm happy to be a part of it.

I married my first and only love and things have been good for me. I really hadn't been in love before him, and even if there was a big atraction since the begining in both parts, both were shy and we became good friends first. We have been married for 15 years and I really hope we can growth old together.

Pam P. said...

This has been a fun week, thanks for thinking of it, Lucy.

I didn't end up with my first love. He turned overly jealous over imagined slights after being engaged for a time -thankfully I realized he wasn't for me before getting to the altar. I found relationships that were so much more satisfying and better for me after that.

Dannyfiredragon said...

Hi Catherine,

it was a great week!

To answer your question. No I didn't end up with my first love. The problem beside many others was that I was too shy to tell him about my love. He was my best buddy.

Teoh said...

Nope, not married yet but we never know what will happen next!

Kiki said...

I didn't end up with my first love either, like most people here. Well, I didn't end up with the first person I *though* I loved.
The man I am with now is the love of my life though, and I've never felt this cerain with anyone else. I reckon that still counts. ^_^