Saturday, July 29, 2006

The Open Door Policy in Romance

I hope you've all been having a great week here at Lucy's Blog Party, I know I have been. Today among the giveaways, I'll be contributing an autographed paperback copy of my erotic contemporary romance, Sylvie's Gift. I'm also including an autographed mini-CD of my erotic contemporary romance novella, Jebediah's Promise.

Sylvie's Gift by Adrianna Dane Sylvie's Gift and Jebediah's Promise have one thing in common in that they are both contemporary romances, but they are about two very different romantic relationships. In Sylvie's Gift, Sylvie Taylor explores her yearning for passionate fulfillment in the shadowy world of dominance and submission.

Jebediah's Promise by Adrianna DaneJebediah's Promise is about the commitment of a military wife to her husband and his promise to her under the most life-threatening situation.

These are two very different stories, but both are very romantic and very much about love and trust. Pushing the envelope, not only in subgenres, but in lifestyles is what exploring the boundaries in writing is all about and part of the reason I love writing. I enjoy the freedoms we are allowed to explore today. In the coming months, I'll be moving even further past the boundaries of what we call traditional romance. Later this year, I will have several stories out dealing with a menage, bisexuality, and a gay relationship. So tell me, what will make you delve into unknown territories in reading? What will make you try a story you never thought you'd be interested in reading?

My first introduction to erotic romance was by winning a basket of electronic ebooks. I never looked back. But I didn't think I would be interested in alternative, nontraditional situations. Wrong again. I read an excerpt that involved a menage and the relationship in that story made sense to me. My boundaries in reading were breached. So, do you have firm boundaries or are you willing to explore and try something new?

I love exploring the dynamics of relationships, personalities, passion, and romance. The lines of lifestyles, as well as genres, no longer is clearly defined. The doors are wide open, not just to the bedroom, but in allowing us to explore how we relate to each other on a daily basis. I've been reading some research on interpretations of fairytales and the tarot, and a phrase in one of the books captured my attention. "Even the physical act of love, properly used, can be a vehicle for spiritual growth." Erotic romance is about intertwining that physical act of love and its many facets, its bonding ability between consenting adults, to create a stronger, deeper story about relationships through the use of sensual and explicit language and situations. How our characters touch, and speak, and relate to each other, especially in the most intimate of situations is an important part of the erotic romance. To slam the door shut, cuts off an intricate part of the love story. Erotic romance isn't just about the sex, it's about the relationship, and so much more.

I hope you are enjoying your weekend. I look forward to reading your comments.

Adrianna

www.adriannadane.com

67 comments:

Julie in Ohio said...
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mammakim said...

I love to try new genres. Most of the time I hear that the story is great from someone else so I go out and grab the book to see for myself

Annie in GA said...

This is really thoughtful and wise, and I can't help but respond. I had barely begun reading ebooks and I was dissatisfied with the ordinary, m/f, barely-disguised soft-core porn of some of them. Then i discovered women authors writing m/m, exploring relationships, lifestyles, and the ability of individuals to explore their own interests and yet to find a way to be in the world around them which often disapproves. I've never looked back. To me life is all about exploring my boundaries; I have a restless spirit; and what I might not yet have fulfilled in "real life" I can explore, either ahead of time or as a substitute, in books.
Annie in GA

Julie in Ohio said...

Wow, Adrianna, this is a complex question for me.
I think of myself as open minded. Anything over my usual boundaries comes from recommendations from others that I trust.
Lately I have been trying alot of different authors and subgenres that I wasn't familiar with.
The only criteria I set is that there needs to be a connection to the characters.
I am open to just about any kind of steamy hottness that is offered but I need to feel for the characters or else it leaves me cold.

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi mammakim, glad you stopped by. I like hearing that you enjoy exploring new genres. It seems like every time I turn around a new cross-genre is cropping up, or it seems like it. It's hard to keep up these days. And I love it. :-)

Adrianna

Anonymous said...

hi adrianna and all!

i loved jeb's promise adrianna! i have to post this way as i can not remember my username

linda bass

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Annie, life is about exploring and expanding boundaries, isn't it? Learning about people and life. Reading fiction is a great way to enjoy fantasies in a safe way.

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

I'm not going to lie, Julie, there have been times when I thought of myself as open-minded and found it isn't always as true as I would like it to be. I think the key is to recognize it and work at it. I'll also say there are erotic stories I've read that have turned me off because it was about the sex and not the relationship. I'm just glad it wasn't the first erotic romance I read, so I knew there were good ones out there. Passion, connection, chemistry between the characters are so very important in any story. If I can't connect with them, if I don't care about them, the story is obviously not working for me.

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Linda, thanks so much. Can you believe I have three pages of passwords and users names for various sites? I do understaind about not remembering one. lol. I'm glad you enjoyed Jebediah's Promise. It was a special story for me to write. A lot went into that story. I'm glad you stopped by. :-)

Adrianna

Cathie said...

Morning Adrianna! My venture into more variety of reading of romances was ebooks too! Yes I see where theres a variety of more relationships that are beautiful to read about their romance, their love, and all. For me it wasn't just wanting to venture into reading more of something different but more of reading all those other relationships that there are and seeing so much beauty and love within the pages. I love too that I can pick what I want to read within ebooks, what strikes my mood. So each day it varies. Too I gave them a chance, and so glad I did!

Jen in WA said...

I'm pretty open about what I read. My first introduction to non-traditional romance (meaning not just m/f) was in an anthology that I'd picked up. Since then I've read a few m/m and menage stories, but I still prefer the traditional m/f.

I'll read most anything as long as the relationship is explored and the book is not just one big sex scene. I'm not sure if I have any boundaries... I guess I'll know when I find it.

Kate R said...

I'll read ANYTHING with a plot, but I prefer characters who are sympathetic and feel well-rounded.

On the other hand, I love the book Perfume and that guy was not what you'd call sympathetic.

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Jen, I think in some ways that's how we "stumble" across boundaries--by accident. g. It might just be a scene in a book that makes us think, "hey, I might like to try reading a story with that kind of relationship." Or, like you, an anthology including a story you wouldn't have nececessarily picke dup on it's own. I do that with websites, too. I might be searching for one thing, then something else catches my eys, and off I go. That kind of journey can be fun...as well as eye-opening and educational. :-)

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Kate, I think the key is to have multi-diminesion characters that you feel >something< for, be it love or hate. They have to make you feel. You have to care about the characters and what happens to them in some way, even if you want them gone because they're a villian. And sometimes there's a villain you want to see redeemed.

Adrianna

Laurie said...

I'm pretty open to trying new genres but I've found that even though I'm OK with gay relationships...I really don't want to read about them. Keep on writing!

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Cathie, I'm glad you stopped by. I think sometimes people see a book classified as "erotic romance" and think that equates only with sex. And that's not the case. It's so much more than that. I'm pleased you're enjoying ebooks. They are such a treasure trove of beautiful stories. :-)

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Laurie, that's exactly why there are so many different genres, subgenres, and even down to different relationship stories. And the publishers are getting better at identifying what types of relationships as well as the genres, that are included within the stories, so that readers can find the story that they will enjoy. They are also there if someone wants to venture out and try something a little different. I think that's been a great addition on the epublisher sites.

Adrianna

Chantal said...

I would enjoy reading same sex romances. Love is love no matter who it is.
As long as it's consenting adults, then I have no boundaries when it comes to the type of romances I read.

Dannyfiredragon said...

Hi Adrianna,

for me it's always a mood thing, of how adventurous I am. Over the last year I tried out quite a few genres that I never thought I would like so much. Menage, M/M etc. It's always good to have an open mind for new genres.

KimW said...

Hi Adrianna! Nice to see you. I'm open to trying anything as long as it has romance in it. The only thing I've found that I don't like is violence. Seems to take away from most stories for me.

readingissomuchfun said...

Hello Adrianna,

Wow great giveaway. Thanks for coming by and sharing with us.

I would read anything as long as it has a good plot. I love story where you also get to know more about the characters. I just started reading Erotica. Some of the erotica don't tell much about the characters they get straight to sex scenes. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy reading them. I had got some good tips *G* I love a good plot story.

HUGSSSS
Linda.H.

readingissomuchfun said...

One more thing. I am not into the M/M.


Linda.H.

Debbie E said...

Hi Adrianna

I am a fan of your books. Christmas of 2005 is when I received my ebookman and bought my first ebooks and it was because I had started reading a series and the rest of the series was not in print and I was dying to continue with the characters.

Through investigating epublishers and author's websites and reading their bios and getting involved with Author Days I became attached to these authors and really liked them and their work so if they branched out into a different genre, I was following them. My perspective of different genres such as paranormal, fantasy, sci fi romances - I don't even recognise the old me. hehe!!!

I have found that for me reading menage and bdsm - it has to fit into the story or it doesn't work for me. I'm not interested in erotic for the sake of sex. I am interested in exploring the character's relationships along with them. I have several new authors that do a great job of this.

I am much more at ease with m/m for example simply because I have just started reading some really great authors and I can't believe it but it makes total sense - their relationships, that is.

Thanks to all the authors that push the boundaries and make me broaden my views on so many different topics.

I have many of your books in TBR pile Adrianna and unfortunately I buy faster than I can read.

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Chantal, Danny, Kim, thanks for stopping by. Each author handles a subject differently and that's one of the things that makes it so much fun to discover new stories. At least in trying something new we can better define whether we really like that type of story or not. By not being open to at least explore we can miss some of the very special stories that are out there. The same thing can be said for a sweet or inspiration story. I like those as well. I don't read, or write, strictly erotic romance. You never know where you'll discover that story that makes a deep impression on you.

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Linda, some of the shorter erotic romances can be centered around a sexual situation. I know with my short stories, if the interlude is the story, something more than the sex is developing. Something in the relationship--the person or people--is changing. A heartbreaking secret may be revealed, such as in The Boy Next Door, or a woman takes desperate measures to break the rules of the man she wants as in MacDougal's Rule. So even in a short story it isn't just about the sexual act, but something in the relationship is going to change by the end of the story.

Now if we are talking erotica rather than erotic romance, that can be different.

Adrianna

M.L. Rhodes said...

You know, I really enjoy a lot of different types of romance and erotic romance--and that includes both traditional m/f stories as well as m/m and menage. BUT...while hot sex is great, I find that I have to have the romance. I want the deeper emotional relationship, regardless of whether it's a man and a woman or two men or two women or a combination of those. Without that, the sex is just sex and it loses its appeal. What I find "sexy" in stories is the physical relationship rooted in the deeper emotional one.

Great post, Adri! Thought provoking as always!

ML

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Debbie, I'm glad you like my books. Don't you sometime feel like that frog in a pot of cold water that's warming up gradually. I referred to that in my post earlier in the week. We look back at what we read and how we read and notice that we've changed and we didn't really notice it as we went along. Suddenly, our vistas are expanded, and the colors more vibrant, more fully dimensional. At least that's what it feels like for me.

Adrianna

Nonny said...

Actually, in regards to sex in romance, I'm open to most anything. But then, in my personal life, I'm a bisexual (mostly lesbian) polyamorous kinky chick, so you'd have to get pretty far out there for me to be uncomfortable with it.

Amy S. said...

I love reading differnt genres. What usaully catches my eye is the cover, then I am hooked when I read the blurb on the back of the book.

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi ML, so glad you stopped by. Relationship--emotional, sexual, spiritual, delving into the soul of the characters--all of it combines to make an erotic romance memorable. Romance all the way. And may I say, you write some of the best, ML. Masks is still one of my favorites. :-)

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Nonny, I'm guessing you probably wouldn't like a story, no matter how adventurous, if it involved one-dimensional, slot a into slob b characters. I've become quite liberal on what I enjoy reading as long as we have the emotion to go along with the act. The whole thing--plot, relationship, actions must all work together--no matter what sex the characters are, or what situation they are in, they must come alive.

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Amy, don't you just love covers? I'm visual that way. >vbg< That is what in many cases will catch my eye first. That's not to say I haven't purchased books with unimaginative covers because the blurb or the excerpt "spoke" to me. But I do love a well-designed, passionate cover when I'm looking for a romance.

Adrianna

Lucy Monroe said...

Hey, Adri...you ask such interesting and thought provoking questions. I'm like a lot of readers in that I'll discover a new subgenre by accident in an anthology or maybe reading a book given to me. I love romance and the exploration of love and committed emotion. I want to read sensual romance because I want the whole picture. :)

There are some things I know will *never* work for me, but that's because they don't work in my definition of love. If you love someone you don't humiliate and hurt them. I know some readers enjoy that fantasy, but I can't go there. Leaves me hurting inside for the characters. I kid you not. So, I guess you can discover both your boundaries and your lack of boundaries reading unexpected things. :)

Lucy Monroe said...

Let me add to my previous comment. When I say "hurt and humiliate" I'm not talking about a sexy spanking. :)

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Hi Lucy, I agree with you in many respects. I also found out that I assumed something about certain lifestyles until I did more research on them. When we write romantic fiction, whatever genre, subgenre, lifestyle we portray--don't we, as fiction writers, romanticize the situation beyond reality? We magnify and enhance, we add an element of intensity that is more fantasy than real life. Hence a good way for readers to escape safely into other worlds by reading books.

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

LOL on the sexy spanking.
Humiliation is never romantic in my opinion. Nor is pain, emotional or physical, in and of itself. Sensations meant to enhance pleasure can be different. Splitting hairs, I know. But alternative lifestyle stories do come from a different viewpoint than traditional stories in some cases. Taking elements from nontraditional and traditional can be challenging and make a wonderful story. Such as adding a sexy spanking to a traditional relationship. >g<

Adrianna

Estella said...

I love trying new genres. I go mostly by author, but sometimes I buy a book on a recommend fron a friend.

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Estella, I think we all do that. I have a friend and we know each other's tastes and often recommend authors and stories we know the other would like. It good to have friends like that where we can trust their recommendations.

Adrianna

M.L. Rhodes said...

Thanks, Adri! That's very nice of you to say. :) And dare I make it sound like we're the mutual admiration club? LOL! I think you already know you're one of my fave authors! And speaking of delving into the deeper aspect of relationships, you do this SO well. I've never read a story of yours that wasn't deeply emotional. I think it's tough sometimes for romance authors--especially tough, perhaps, for erotic romance authors--to find just that right mix of sexy and emotional. And, in my opinion, it's so important. As a reader if you make me care, really care, about the characters, I'll go along pretty much anywhere with them. :)

Ali said...

Hi, Adrianna :-)
If my one of my favorite authors wrote a story I didn't think I'd be interested in I'd try it out. Or, I would try it out if I liked the plot and/or excerpt. I'm always willing to explore and try something new.

Susan said...

I love to try new genres. I find books by visiting different blogs written by people I've become friends with. I trust their reviews on books that I wouldn't otherwise know about and must say that 99 percent of the time end up with a new author added to my must read.

Kathleen said...

I'll read almost any book as long as it has a great plot...so if I read half of the book and don't like it then I will just speed read through the rest :)

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Aw shucks, ML, you've got me blushing. >g< And I agree with what you say.

Adrianna

Mark St. Claire said...

I've always been into exploring new things, so I've always like to delve into unknown territories, well nothing really makes me do it, if I see something different, I don't mind exploring it.

I don't have any boundaries set, I have an open mind, I've always had one. I love trying new things.

But I can't get myself to write straight romance, I can read it, but just can't writing. I guess I only feel comfortable with writing gay romance.

I guess you can say that that was a boundary naturally set for me.

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Ali, Susan, Kathleen, I'm really glad to hear you say that. I'll admit, I worry every time I approach a new boundary with a story. I sweat big time when I submitted Sylvie's Gift to my publisher. I've been pleased by its reception. The companion story to it, Sequestered Passion, has also been well received. I've had readers who have never read an erotic romance say they enjoyed these stories. Obviously, they were also willing to try something new and I am so thankful for readers who do that.

Adrianna

ShelMel said...

After attending this blog party and seeing how many authors and genres I'm missing out on, I am definitely going to be expanding my horizons. I'm willing to try/read anything once.

I also see that I'm going to have to delve into the e-book world. I didn't realize there were so many good books on e-books out there! Thank you Adrianna and all the guest authors for opening a whole new world to me!

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Mark, thanks for stopping by. There's nothing wrong with that. There are some boundaries that arent's meant to be breached, or maybe it's not the right time for you, or the right story hasn't presented itself. It's still difficult finding good gay stories, so a dedication to the genre is wonderful.

Sometimes I think it would be easier if I did settle on one genre. I sometimes feel like an actor who enjoys the challenge of diverse roles. I guess that's why Johnny Depp is one of my favorites. I love his choices in movies. I can be warped at times in the movies I find inspirational.>g<

Adrianna

Adrianna Dane (Tess Maynard) said...

Shelmel, I'm glad you've come to the party. There have been a lot of other great authors here this week. It really has been awesome. And I know we all enjoy hearing from readers.

For myself, all of Lucy Monroe's books are on my keeper shelf. Kate Walker has a wonderful nonfiction book out, "12 Point Guide to Writing Romance" that I found very helpful when I got stuck on a point in a story I was writing. I have several of Catherine Spangler's books in my TBR pile.

It really has been a wonderful week.

Adrianna

Minna said...

I've always liked exploring new things. You don't know if you might like something unless you try it.

Pamk said...

I am willing to try just about anything once. lol And when it comes to ebooks there are only a few that I found I wasn't interested in. M/M books being one of those. Quite frankly tried them and they didn't appeal to me. I have read these by a couple of authors whose romances with m/f or even m/f/m I have loved. I think part of the problem is that when I read I picture myself as the heroine and in samesex books that's not possible.

Darla said...

Depends on my mood!

Meljprincess said...

A new author or interesting subject matter will make me delve into unknown territories in reading. Alien sex is definitely worth pursuing.
I am always willing to explore and try something new. Even alien sex! LOL!

Lori said...

Hi Andrianna~
I have recently started reading some stories with BDSM in them and I absolutely love them and I find the whole lifestyle quite fascinating! I think that you have to be open to reading about other things and I am always willing to try something new. I enjoy reading about different things and even if it is not something I would personally do, I enjoy reading about it.
I am looking forward to reading your upcoming books.
Lori

Pam P. said...

PamK, I'm the same as you, I want to think of the heroine as me so find I don't care for the same sex romance, either, don't relate to it. That's not to say that I haven't read some excerpts that were well written, and it is good for the choice to be there for those who like to read it.

Amy said...

I will try new authors or genres if someone gives me a book or if a friend that know's me well enought to know if I may like a book or not.

Veronica said...

I like to think I am open to new genres. It just usually takes me awhile to actually read some of them. A book being recommeded by a friend or family member usually will make me take a look at it.

Since I have started to read ebooks several years ago I have been more open to reading different things.

readingissomuchfun said...

Yes I am talking about erotica. Sorry for the confusion.

HUGSSSS
Linda.H.

KarenG said...

I am very open to trying something new. I can stop reading if I don't like it but I may miss something good if I don't try it.

Karen

Cynthya said...

I'm very openminded and love to try new genres. Usually what gets me to try something new is a personal recommendation from a friend. Also, if an author I like tries something new I am likely to try it. I really enjoy M/M and Menage romances, but they have to have a good story and interesting characters just like any other book.

shelley said...

I read widely in most romance genres - as long as there's a plot I can believe in and the characters are well-rounded, then I'm happy. That's one thing about the romance genre that is so great. There's something for everyone, no matter what your tastes.

bamabelle said...

I love variety in books. Therefore, I read books from most genres and subgenres. I try to read books that are outside the box fairly often. I have discovered a lot of terrific books and authors that way.

Juliet said...

I love to read different genres and I love to see diversity so that there's something for everybody's tastes. For me the most important is to feel the connection between the main characters.

Julia B.

Marcy said...

I like trying new types of books when they've been recommended to me by friends. I'm open to read anything...once.

Cherie Japp said...

I have tried reading different books but I have to admit that the m/m ones leave me cold. I like being able to identify with a heroine and put myself in her place. I am also not into heavy domination and submission where one character beats or tortures the other. That kind of stuff just makes me feel sick.

Lisa T said...

I love variety. The only one requirement I insist on in the books I read is there is a connection/feeling/love between the characters.

Marcail said...

You said it. Some of us are natural born voyeurs. I love to see couples in love or physically attracted expressing themselves. It's kinda like getting the nod that I'm doing alright.

Jodi said...

I will try new genres on the basis of recommendations from friends.